ladyshinga:

Human beings don’t jump from hate to love. Fiction lies to you.

This applies to self-love as well.

If you’re struggling with hating yourself, trying to push yourself to jump straight to self-love feels impossible.

So it’s okay. It’s OKAY to start small. Start trying with little things. Give yourself more slack. Shrug off some of your self-hating thoughts. Start trying to convince yourself that you’re “not so bad” or “just okay”.

Fighting self-hate with self-love is like being armed with a weapon you have ZERO training and experience in. Start small. Self-tolerance is a good start.

Start tolerating yourself. Eventually you’ll get used to that, and you can start down the path of liking yourself. Then, someday, love can happen.

Be patient. You don’t have to instantly love the person you see in the mirror, especially when you have no idea HOW. Tolerate first, love can follow someday when you’ve trained and know how.