Hafsat also told a Sharia Court in Minna that her husband, Mr Umar Aliyu, was not providing money for general maintenance of their home.
“My husband is not living up to his responsibility of putting food on the table.
“He also failed in providing for my general maintenance and upkeep of our four children.
“That is why I am begging this honourable court to bring the marriage to an end,” she said.
Responding, Aliyu, however, denied the allegations, saying he had always done his best for his family.
He told the court that his wife was looking for an excuse to break the marriage.
Aliyu said that he still loved his wife and wanted the marriage.
In his ruling, the Presiding Judge, Mr Mohammed Habib, advised the couple to embrace peace, saying that marriage required patience and understanding.
Habib said that the court would give the couple an opportunity to resolve differences amicably.
He adjourned the case till November 1 for report of settlement.
(NAN)
Is marriage by force? She wants out and the judge is spewing dust! Mtcheew
ReplyDeleteYou're very bitter soul. May God help you change your sense of reasoning.
DeleteDon't mind them,They will always favour their men. Ndi ala
DeleteFor him to still want the marriage means his wife is telling the truth.
ReplyDeleteYou nor get hand to work? Next pls.
ReplyDeleteGood decision by the court. As long as Domestic Violence isn't involved. It's even encouraging when the man is willing to make it work that shows there is an element of maturity and he is responsible. Dear wife please have a rethink, 16yrs no be 16days.
ReplyDeleteIs it by force? She no want be say she no want! Kilode?
DeleteWilling to make it work bawo for 16yrs. So if its a sister you will encourage the suffer...chaii
DeleteDoes he want her to sex him on a hungry belly?
ReplyDeleteI wonder oo
DeleteStella there is no nawa here.
ReplyDeleteI don't blame the woman. This is a real life issue many married women are experiencing.
I honestly don't know what sort of generation of irresponsible men we have nowadays. You want to be the head you want to be respected as A man and you can't play your role as a man.
Reminds me of my close colleague who is the only single guy left in the office. People keep teasing him to get married. He's 32,good looking,has his own 3bedroom apartment,dress well and nice ride.
But he keeps saying this thing. That until he is able to financially cater for a wife and child very comfortably, that he doesn't want someone's daughter to come in and suffer. And he doesn't even want to wait for a ladies salary to join to their expenses. He wants to take care of her just as she's comfortable in her fathers house.
That people shouting marry won't give him kobo.
And I see reason to what he is saying.
Even in my own home if not that I lock up for my hubby and always sing I am broke he will leave alot of the responsibilities to the little I'm already doing. And still be demanding for respect as man of the house. While I am doing all.
@anon 19:39, thank you. God bless you. I just don't understand, they will be demanding respect, yet they cannot even feed the family, not to talk of maintenance.
Delete@ anonymous 20:17,u are sounding so irresponsible urself...I'm sure the men u are talking about are trying their best.but u people trying to live above your means is the issue here..many of u climb mountain and do several dry fasting, and some even knack pigeon before husband show face, to take una old age shame away... Wake up every mrnin and thank your man! Love him and respect him...also, appreciate wot he brings to the table..believe me, its not greener out there
DeleteAnnon you are suffering in your marriage so this is what you will put up with for years and you people will be facebooking with pictures but suffering outside. The other annon you are a man abi. Go home and take care of your family. Why should a woman be responsible for the family alone. Most men who allow such are as lazy as they come
DeleteMarriage is not by force. Stop asking people to give reasons for divorce. That's why she's probably lying that he doesn't provide bc she knows that's one of the reasons divorce is granted. Stop making spouses embarrass each other
ReplyDeleteWife think am on, dis board regime no easy o
ReplyDeleteBoth of them should provide for the general maintenance of the home and take care of the children as well. It's not solely the responsibility of the husband
ReplyDeleteIt is solely the responsibility of the husband. Are you not a Christian/Muslim? Go and read your bible/qur'an which ever
DeleteFan Emmanuel...it’s your type that will come on blogosphere and say one and go behind and do want you condemned. I pity the spouses that put up with women with this level of reasoning.
DeleteFan..... The woman is supposed to support the husband, if husband bring N6 she can try to bring N3.
DeleteI don't think you read well , you just wanted to save a marriage. He doesn't provide for his family. Anyway, people should get what they wish for. Stella you will equally be the provider in your home ...
DeletePls if u did not suffer in your Fathers house, don't suffer in a man's house, if u suffered in your father's House, do not continue suffering in a man's house, you were not born to suffer..pls.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you for your comment
DeleteMay they settle their differences
ReplyDeleteThis one don get boyfriend.
ReplyDeleteI dey tell you! The man should just give her seke uku and let her go where her bread is being buttered and engine being oiled, loba pari case closed.......
DeleteLemme not say that the two of you are stupid o.
DeleteThey are stupid indeed
DeleteBaby Mama, you are the stupid one. Shebi you can see your life outside. Oponu
DeleteAnon 13:40 u are a retarded fool o. So for your mind baby mama na insult. Oponu sowe nu. See who is calling someone oponu
DeleteMy sister has been married for 13years now to one Yoruba lazy man,that man has never paid their child school fee or house rent in all this years.he doesn’t provide food not to talk of shelter..useless man he made me dislike Yoruba men..he reduced my sister to the level of taking dirty jobs so that they can feed. He is always at home doing school run why my sister goes out to work..13year my brethren this man is still sleeping.my sister is tired..last year their house rent expired no money to pay the rent,he reduced my sister to begging,when I heard I told my sister to move to my place till she find her feet again,do you know the bastard came with her..after some days he left and never came back till today..I have told her to go return her brideprice ooo becos there is no marriage there..she is my older sister buh very naive and quiet
ReplyDeleteHaa! husband also came to squat in your house??Oluwa saanu me ooo! The man needs deliverance...
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