the thing is, right, i absolutely want to be known, but only by the right people (if you follow me/we’re mutuals, you’re the right people): i remember very distinctly that one day the dude i was having very mediocre sex with for, inexplicably, like 5 years made an offhand comment about something I liked (‘oh, i know how much you like peacocks’) and I was like no no no no abort mission you don’t get to know that