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Jun 19

dontbearuiner

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I have a lot of feels about ‘functional singing’…

Your music feels are my music feels. I’m always taken aback when I find out someone I know has a good voice but never uses it except for the odd karaoke or campfire. People used to be just good at stuff like art and music without it being capitalized on or a demand of it being for others’ enjoyment.

And like, the counterpoint I guess– if you’re good at it, people get all weird when you do it. I sometimes sing purposely badly– not like, obnoxiously so, but like, no support and quietly and throttled back and unobtrusive, not like in a choir but like, just trying not to sound like much– when called upon for things like the birthday song etc., because if you really sing out and you’re good at it, people are like “oh you’re really good and should be professional” and then they treat it like you’re performing and sit and watch you and hush each other and like… that wasn’t… what I was trying… to do either… It even happens to me at singing sessions. I stopped going to the one I liked, because of a couple little incidents where I feel like I made not-very-good singers self-conscious– joining in to sing along with a song I know is not me trying to upstage someone, that’s not how sessions work, right?– and in the end, the woman who wanted to be in charge of the session did some extremely standard I Liked It Better When I Was The Only Girl moves on me, and I just didn’t have the patience to do more than blithely pretend to take her at her word on various things (including whispering to me that I needed to wrap it up after one verse and not take up too much time while I was in the midst of said first verse, and another time, actually flinching at my first note because, as she’d told me, the proper method of performing wasn’t to sing so loud, you see, it’s just not proper, even if you’re in a loud bar and nobody can hear each other– seriously though who fucking flinches) so that was the end of that.

Just. it’s not like. jealousy, usually. It’s just, oh, you can sing, and everyone gets odd about it. 

Posted at 5:04 PM 10 notes Tagged: dontbearuinersometimes i sort of sit in despairand wonder how it's possible for me to be both notably untalented and notably talented at the same thingi wish i could just do a thing you know?but you can't just be you and do what you dowe have such monetized livesif you can't make money at it then you mustn't waste your time on itit's a sin to waste time doing something you can't make money atand then it becomes actively offensive to other peoplesomehoweither that you waste time doing itor that you Waste your Talent because Clearly You Should Do This For Money

  1. icantbearsedtothinkofone said: It does. As soon as ypure obliged to.fo a thjng it becomes shit
  2. morganeilish said: I have an ex who every time he heard me singing, which was a lot cuz it’s how I entertain myself, he’d insist that I should sing professionally and then get annoyed when I said I didn’t want to be a singer. Singing is just a thing I like doing. I don’t want to try to monetize everything I like to do cuz that’d probably make it significantly less enjoyable.
  3. csevet said: god, yes, yes. going to sing along with something in the car or playing at a party because it’s a great song! and people get Weird. (sidebar my friends who got married this past april? had a bohemian rhapsody sing-along as their last song at the reception. it was the first time in literal years no one’s Gotten Weird Abt It, and i think because we were full of free shots.)
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    I have this wonderful thing where I can sing, until I’ve had a drink. But I won’t sing unless I’ve had a drink. When,...
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