Living with Bipolar Disorder Takes Courage

Last Updated: 28 May 2019
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If you are living with bipolar and managed to brave the morning sun, you are a hero who demonstrates not only resiliency—but hope for all who continue to struggle.


I have heard countless inspirational stories of people dealing with bipolar disorder who have battled through drug and alcohol misuse, survived breakdowns, have pushed through endless depressive episodes and many who have persevered past their struggles despite the obstacles that have gotten in their way. I recognize these immense achievements and I want to offer you all my sincere recognition as you are courageous heroes in my eyes.

It is challenging to live with bipolar disorder because it will often cause set-backs in a person’s life. I have personally been beaten down by the bully of this condition. I recall my first depressive episode taking over when I was only 9 years old. My parents had recently divorced and as I sat in my living room staring at the wall, I could not shake how horrible I felt. Yes, any kid going through a similar situation would inevitably be sad, but I believe this feeling had to be authentic depression as I felt my former joyous heart flat line. There were not many ‘signs’ in my younger years that pointed to bipolar disorder, but since my mother had been diagnosed, I often wondered if my diagnosis was inevitable.

I made a number of poor decisions as a teenager, including abusing alcohol and drugs, to try to ease my anxiety and neglect. Many of us self-medicate beyond experimentation and it is more than difficult to stop the whirlwind of abuse that so often takes us down a darker path as we age. I struggled with substances until my early 30’s and for those individuals who have chosen triumph over torture, I want you to know that you embody undeniable courage. It takes a certain type of person to cease all addictions, especially when also having to deal with the extreme struggle of a mental illness.

Triumph Over Challenges When Dealing With Bipolar Disorder

Our lives unfold with an undetermined future in front of us, but we are always left with one aspect of this life – choice. Yes, mental illness may pummel us to the ground with strings of hospitalizations, loss of employment, failed marriages, severe debt, medication trials, lost hopes and so on. However, if you are living with bipolar disorder today and you managed to brave the morning sun, you are one of the world’s heroes who demonstrates not only resiliency but hope for many who suffer. I admire people who thrive to better their lives and make a positive impact in the world by advocating for themselves and/or others. Dedicating positive energy toward our own path in any way is an act of courage and striving for tomorrow demonstrates a strong ‘will into action’ that carries us through to the next day.

During the brief time that we are given on earth, our personal experiences shape who we are today and we can choose to dwell on the past, or instead we can make peace with it. We cannot undo our set-backs, but we are able to make our future more meaningful than yesterday. We cannot control all things, and life may even have its own plans, but by recognizing that our life is a gift is truly the first step in knowing that our lives are so worth living.

About the author
Andrea Paquette is the president and cofounder of the Stigma-Free Society, formerly the Bipolar Disorder Society of BC, and she is also known as the Bipolar Babe. A mental health speaker, published author, advocate, and—above all—a Stigma Stomper, Andrea won the 2019 President's Commendation Award from the Canadian Psychiatric Association. She created the Bipolar Babe Project in May 2009. Andrea has reached over thousands with her message of hope and resiliency in schools, workplaces, and throughout various community organizations and events. Her Bipolar Babe persona has reached great heights locally and internationally as she is a 2016 Bell Let's Talk Face for the Canadian Alliance on Mental Illness and Mental Health (CAMIMH). Andrea is the B.C. Provincial 2015 Courage to Come Back Recipient in the Mental Health category, the winner of Victoria’s 2013 CFAX Mel Cooper Citizen of the Year Award and the 2013 Winner for Mental Health Mentorship given by the National Council for Behavioral Health, Washington, DC. Andrea has also received the prestigious Top 20 Under 40 Award for Vancouver Island's Business and Community Awards. Most recently, she has created Stigma-Free COVID-19 Youth Wellness Toolkits. She is grateful for having the opportunity to share her personal message that “No matter what our challenges, we can all live extraordinary lives.” Feel free to visit her website: Bipolar Babe and connect with Andrea on Twitter @Bipolar__Babe and Instagram @bipolarbabe.
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  1. I appreciate your words of hope and courage. There has to be some measure of hope – even just a pinpoint – in order to have the courage to keep going, to keep trudging through the pit of severe mental illness. My first episode of depression was at age 11, and I was formally diagnosed BP II and GAD at age 31. My mental health and life continued to deteriorate from there, and the next 15 years were a whirlwind of addiction, failed relationships, lost jobs (over 20 in a 4 year period), suicide attempts, psychiatric hospitals, and many days & months (….years?….) with crippling depression and the absolute inability to get out of bed. Things are different now. I have had a steady, full-time, GOOD job for over 3 years, and am doing contract work as well within my field. I have been able to move out of husbands’ and parents’ homes to live on my own and be completely independent. I have been clean and sober from drugs and alcohol for over 8 years. I am starting my own business. I have friends and family who I love and who love me. But please hear me when I say that none of this happened overnight, and NONE of it was handed to me or came easy. I fought and fought and FOUGHT my way out of the pit and I keep fighting every day. I struggled, kicked, screamed and cried for years, until I realized that I have so much more power over the state of my mental health than I ever thought. Yes I have to take my meds. Yes I see my psychiatrist regularly, and my counselor and my sponsor are my lifelines! But I also have a choice whether or not I fall further into the pit or start to claw my way out of it. And there are days when I feel like I have nothing, no strength or even desire to try and get out or stay out of the dark side, but I force myself to sit up and put my feet on the floor. And if I take just one step, then chances are I will take another. I am not deluded in thinking that I could not relapse at any moment – either from my mental illness or my addiction or both – I know these diseases are serious and powerful. But I also know that if that happens, I am equipped with tools to advocate for myself and ensure a stable future for myself.

  2. I have always wanted the softer easier way, but it was not available. So I learned to trim my sails and keep going not because I am brave but because somehow it feels better to try, even to fail than to wish for a better lot in life. This bumpy ride is shaping me in ways I don’t understand or often agree with but maybe in time I will be able to say yes even to failing well. It has been almost 50 years trying to show me something and maybe share that with some other traveler. Maybe that is what we are here for. You have written using your full name but I have not, so who is courageous? You are erasing stigma and I have a ways to go in acceptance and letting go of fear.

  3. My life has not been perfect, but I am grateful.

  4. Andrea!

    What a wonderful article. So beautifully stated. It take SO much courage to even admit the diagnosis to ourselves let alone to the world!

    I was excited to see Andrea as the author for this post. I am honored to have written a post for “Stigma-Free Society” and hope to work with both bphope and Stigma-Free in the future.

    The “This Is My Brave” video from 2018 came out on YouTube the other day. If people haven’t heard of that organization it is also a wonderful source of hope and inspriation for people with mental illness and their families (or anyone whose lives are affected).

    This is an era of dealing with shame, erasing stigma and reaching out to help those who need it without fear.

    I’m proud to be a part of it.

  5. This article really lifted my spirits. Even though I have a home-town peer support group that en – courages me, I still felt a lot of insecurity. But two years ago, I got my first computer and have been receiving bphope daily.
    I identify so strongly with the articles and comments that my world opened up for me. I don’t feel as lonely when I connect with the courage of others. Thanks!

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