Watching For Signs of Bipolar in Children

Last Updated: 11 Aug 2021
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Children and a diagnosis of bipolar disorder is an increasingly controversial topic. We take a hard look at this hot issue.


Donna S. often catches herself watching and waiting for something she hopes will never happen. Ever since she learned that bipolar disorder has a strong genetic component, Donna has been angst-ridden that her child, John, will inherit her illness.

John was only 7 when Donna took him to a psychiatrist for an evaluation.

“I was afraid we would become one of the statistics people were telling me about,” says Donna, executive director and founder of the Ohio, branch of the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance. “My family tried to tell me to relax.”

Although John did well in school, he was a highly sensitive child.

“He could be really happy and having fun, and then be sad the next minute,” says Donna, a single parent. “Because I was looking for something, I thought there was something.”

The psychiatrist agreed that John was anxious, but said it was understandable given that his grandmother, to whom he was extremely close, had been diagnosed with cancer and that his mother was periodically hospitalized for bipolar episodes.

Today, John is a healthy 16-year-old. He is a member of his high school football team, participates in school musicals and shows more than a passing interest in girls. Still, Donna admits that the possibility of John developing a mood disorder “is always in the back of my mind.”

Child rearing can be a challenging, emotional process for anyone. But the stress can be amplified in families with a history of bipolar disorder, who must worry about distinguishing normal, childhood upheavals from signs of an emerging illness.

If a grade-schooler has trouble controlling his temper at school, is it a phase or something more ominous?

Is the pre-teen flitting around her bedroom late at night showing normal girlhood energy or the beginnings of mania?

How is a parent to know?

Rise in bp diagnoses sparks continued controversy

Those worries have been aggravated by a dramatic increase in the diagnosis of bipolar disorder in children and the resulting attention in the mainstream media. An issue once discussed primarily in medical journals is now a frequent topic on everything from the evening news to The Oprah Winfrey Show.

But how can parents sort through the often-conflicting reports?

Doctors at New York’s Stony Brook University recently analyzed data from patients discharged from U.S. psychiatric hospitals from 1996 to 2004. They found that while the number of adults with a bipolar diagnosis rose slightly, the number of children discharged with that diagnosis increased from one in 10 in 1996 to four in 10 by 2004.

The exact reason behind those numbers is unclear. Some mental health experts point to the 1994 update of the Diagnostic & Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (also known as the DSM-IV). That year, psychiatry’s official manual widened the definition of bipolar disorder.

Mental health advocates cite improved diagnosis and awareness of the illness. Still others believe publicity generated by the pharmaceutical industry may be driving the increase.

Adding to the confusion, leaders in the field of child psychiatry have yet to reach an agreement on how to best diagnose pediatric bipolar disorder. Is extreme irritability enough of a marker? Some say yes. Others, however, contend children must clearly exhibit bipolar symptoms, as classified in the DSM-IV, including elation, grandiosity and decreased need for sleep. Yet a third group says children must fit the DSM-IV guidelines, but also may have rapid cycling, rather than discrete episodes of mania and depression.

“The controversy is over how narrowly or broadly to define childhood bipolar disorder,” said Joan Luby, MD, an associate professor of child psychiatry at Washington University School of Medicine in St. Louis, Missouri.

Clearer guidelines and more education are necessary to improve the accuracy of diagnosing childhood bipolar, Dr. Luby says. “I think there is a general consensus that the diagnosis is being used too broadly by too many, but also is perhaps being missed in some affected children,” she says.

Pass-on risk unclear

Experts agree on one crucial issue. The chance a child of a bipolar parent will inherit the illness appears relatively small. But there are reasons to be concerned.

More than two-thirds of people with bipolar say they have at least one close relative with the disorder or with unipolar major depression, suggesting a genetic component, according to a study published in the May 2003issue of Archives of General Psychiatry.

A 1997 analysis of 17 prior studies also suggests there are reasons to be vigilant. The 10-year-old, but still cited, research study found that bipolar offspring had only a 2.7 percent chance of being diagnosed with bipolar. But they did have a 50 percent chance of suffering from some type of psychiatric disorder, such as ADHD, anxiety disorder or depression, compared to29 percent in the general population.

If you have a family history of bipolar disorder and your child begins to exhibit signs of depression, extreme irritability or ADHD, but no classical signs of mania, diagnosis can be tricky. Is the child demonstrating early manifestations of bipolar disorder—or other mood disorders?

Boris Birmaher, MD, a professor of psychiatry at the University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine, conducted a five-year study comparing more than 400 children of bipolar parents, ages 2 to 18, to 300 children randomly selected from the community.

Preliminary data indicates that the children of bipolar parents were roughly eight times more likely to have a bipolar spectrum disorder during the course of their life. This spectrum includes symptoms ranging from very mild to severe, Dr. Birmaher says.

It is important to note, however, that bipolar disorder affects only about 3 percent of the total U.S. population in a given year, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. So even if a child has aparent with bipolar, the chance he or she will develop the illness remains statistically small.

“Don’t worry too much,” Dr. Birmaher advises parents. “If you compare children of parents with bipolar disorder with children in the general population, they are at high risk, but that does not necessarily mean they will be bipolar. You can have lots of diabetes in the family, but not necessarily have diabetes.”

Children of bipolar parents are also at higher risk for other mood disorders: They are three times more likely to suffer from episodes of depression and twice as likely to suffer from anxiety disorders than the control group, Dr. Birmaher found.

Ellen Leibenluft, MD, an investigator with the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), the lead federal agency for research on mental and behavioral disorders, cautions parents and health care providers against leaping to conclusions.

“It is often viewed that if the child of a bipolar parent is having any kind of difficulty, the child must have bipolar, but the statistics don’t bear that out,” she says. “They do have an increased risk, but most won’t be bipolar.”

And other experts fear that many children are being misdiagnosed.

Gabrielle A. Carlson, MD, director of child and adolescent psychiatry at Stony Brook University Medical Center, for example, says that many children who have problems regulating their emotions or who suffer from ADHD are now being labeled bipolar.

“There are a million different reasons” children have trouble regulating their mood, she says. “My major objection is that when people give you a conditioned response that it’s bipolar, it shuts off minds as to what else might be causing the behavior and I don’t think that’s in anyone’s best interest.”

The potential dangers of misdiagnosis are clear: prescribing the wrong medications unnecessarily exposes a child to powerful medications that carry side effects. And, if bipolar disorder is mistaken for unipolar depression or ADHD, antidepressants or stimulants could trigger a manic episode.

The fact that bipolar is a multi-gene disorder further complicates diagnosis, says Dr. Leibenluft of the NIMH.

“For argument’s sake, let’s say bipolar disorder is made up of 15 different genes,” she says. “If someone has two of these genes, are they bipolar? It’s not a yes or no question. They may have a little bipolar and a bunch of other stuff.”

Susan Resko is executive director of the Children and Adolescent Bipolar Foundation (CABF), a parent-led non-profit, based in Illinois, which offers support, information and advocacy to families raising children diagnosed with, or at risk for, pediatric bipolar disorder. She is also the mother of a bipolar child.

Resko questions whether pediatric bipolar is currently over-diagnosed.

“My attitude is that before it was completely unrecognized. Now, is the pendulum in the middle, or swung the other way? I don’t know.”

Watch, but don’t worry

All parents want to keep their children safe.

The trick, say experts, is to be watchful, without being overly wary. Dr. Leibenluft urges parents to treat each child as an individual and assume all is well until you have reason to believe otherwise.

“Obviously, you want to let them have as typical a development as possible,” she says. “You wouldn’t want to start out with the notion of treating them differently.”

Instead, “put them in situations where they are likely to achieve success and get the support they need. You can have a child of someone who is bipolar who is doing perfectly great.”

But separating the normal rebelliousness and moodiness of childhood and adolescence from more troubling behaviors is not always easy.

“Children can sometimes be grandiose and impulsive. Teens can be very loud, easily irritated and love staying up late. Since these are signs of normative development, we shouldn’t assume bipolar disorder,” says Helena Verdeli, PhD, an assistant professor of clinical psychology at Columbia University who studies genetic linkage.

The possibility… is always in the back of my mind.

“However, parents need to be concerned if they see a pattern of severe fluctuations in mood, energy and daily routines that lead to difficulty in functioning in school, with friends, or at home.”

And should a troubling pattern emerge, experts recommend having your child evaluated by a mental health professional who specializes in children.

To determine what role therapy can play in delaying, reducing or even eliminating mood disorders, Dr. Verdeli and her Columbia University colleagues are studying 60 children of bipolar parents. So far, each child, aged 12 to 18, has experienced mild depression or mania, but not a full-blown mood disorder.

The control group receives monthly counseling sessions and some information about mood disorders and how to cope with their parents’ illness. A second group is undergoing both weekly individual therapy sessions and family therapy, with the goal of teaching the teenagers coping skills and ways to improve their home life.

“We know from other studies that high levels of disorganization and conflict…are associated with higher severity of mood disorder,” Dr. Verdeli says. “Although (bipolar disorder) is highly inheritable, environment plays a very important role in triggering episodes—and in improving them. Having consistent daily routines such as having regular times when family members eat, go to sleep, etc., and support from family and friends can make a big difference.”

Washington University School of Medicine’s Dr. Luby advises parents to be in tune with their child’s emotional health.

“If you have an intensely emotional child, help them process and recognize their emotions,” she says. “But parents should not think they can prevent childhood bipolar disorder—it’s a severe brain disorder.”

The best gift a parent with bipolar can give to their child, she says, is to take care of themselves.

“It is really important for the bipolar parent to make sure they themselves get treated and are as psychologically stable as possible,” says Dr. Luby. “If they have an acceptance of the disorder and seek medical treatment, it also sets a good model for the child’s attitude about any emotional disorder they might have.”

What the children of bipolar parents need is what all children need.

“A certain level of common sense should prevail,” Dr. Carlson says. “Children need a regular bedtime, good nutrition, someone to supervise what and how much television they watch—whether you have a mental illness in your family or not.”

Catch it early

It’s not uncommon for Susan Resko of the Child and Adolescent Bipolar Foundation to receive a call from parents of a child who has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, concerned that one of their other children is also showing signs of emotional problems. She encourages them to have the child evaluated to either assuage or confirm their worries.

“Early intervention saves lives,” she says. “A good treatment team can offer an objective evaluation.”

Resko also recommends that parents keep a journal documenting their child’s behavior, so they can provide details and dates should they ultimately seek professional help.

“Watch for signs, but don’t let it cripple you with fear,” Resko advises. “Educate your children how to manage life in such a way that they don’t take on too much and get overstressed.”

And if your child does develop a mental illness, “try to remain as calm as possible and get support for yourself,” says Resko, who keeps grounded by supporting other parents of bipolar children.

Martha S., 46, has reached out to CABF over the years. She has two sons diagnosed with bipolar disorder, ages 11 and 9. Their sister, Annie, 10, is a “normal, average child,” Martha says. All three are adopted; Martha’s sister is their natural mother.

Annie is “very aware that her brothers are different,” Martha says. “She knows about bipolar and she knows she’s not free from it yet.”

Annie is responsible, a good student and has lots of friends. But as Annie nears puberty, Martha, a former pediatric nurse, has begun to watch for “red flags” that may signal negative changes in her daughter’s behavior.

Donna S. can relate. Even though her son excels in school, she still worries.

“As he grows into his teens, he’s becoming more sensitive,” she says. “He’ll have a tendency to stay in his room for hours and hours. I worry that something is wrong.”

But Donna also recognizes that she and her son cope with stress differently: She likes to talk out problems, while John wants some alone time to think things through. She tries not to push him to talk before he’s ready.

Sometimes, Donna has difficulty distinguishing whether John is a “little hypo-manic,” or “just a little excited at what is going on in his life.”

Still, Donna says she is trying to view her son for who he is, rather than as the child of someone with bipolar disorder.

“Something just clicked one day,” Donna says. “Instead of worrying all the time, I was able to step back and look at what a wonderful young man he is. There’s nothing wrong with him right now.

“Down the road he could have something, but I don’t need to worry about that all the time.”

Watching for patterns

It is now generally accepted by the medical community that bipolar disorder can occur in childhood. Yet, researchers are still struggling how best to diagnose and treat the juvenile form of the disease—a difficult task since it tends to present differently in children. For example, a manic child is more likely to display irritability than elation or euphoria, and more likely to experience rapid cycling than discrete episodes of mania and depression, followed by periods of stability, according to the National Institute of Mental Health.

Child psychiatrists must also try to determine whether bursts of volatile behavior or extreme sadness are truly bipolar, or signs of other mental disorders common in childhood, such as attention deficit disorder and anxiety disorder–or a combination of two or more of these illnesses.

In mania, a bipolar child may giggle uncontrollably in class, or wake up at 4 a.m. during summer vacation. The depressed bipolar child may express sadness through physical complaints—such as a stomach ache or a headache. Or, they may refuse to go to school, threaten to run away from home, become extremely sensitive to rejection or failure, or have difficulty maintaining friendships.

Many children exhibit some of these behaviors. What parents need to look for is a pattern.


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Printed as “Parents and the waiting game”, Fall 2007

 
About the author
Donna Jackel specializes in mental health, animal welfare and social justice issues. She earned a bachelors degree in journalism at the S.I. Newhouse School of Public Communications at Syracuse University. For 15 years, Donna was a staff reporter at the Democrat and Chronicle, a daily newspaper in Rochester, NY, where she still lives. As a freelancer, in addition to contributing to bp Magazine and esperanza, Donna’s work has appeared in ReWire, The Progressive, Lilith, Texas Monthly, Yes! Magazine, The Chicago Tribune, Bark Magazine, CityLab, Leap Magazine and other national publications. A story Donna wrote about her mother’s (Marie Rogers) service in the British Air Force during World War II was included in the anthology, Before They Were Our Mothers: Voices of Women Board Before Rosie Started Riveting (copyright 2017). In 2019, Donna won an honorable mention in health writing from the American Society of Journalists & Authors for a feature story she wrote for The Progressive about college students who were denied transgender hormone therapy. When Donna isn’t working, she can be found hanging out with her Lab, Bear, horseback riding or catching a movie at the Little Theatre. Her work can be seen at donnajackel.com.
47 Comments
  1. They did mention anger management issues as well, I may be wrong as well, so please hold your comments about me. You may want to see if you may exhibit symptoms od BP as well. Thanks.

    1. If this commenter does have bipolar, a public shaming in reaction to their comment is pretty unkind and unprofessional.

  2. My father was bi-polar, my brother and his child. Either we are unlucky or it is hereditary.

  3. Hi

    Very interesting article and responses. I really hope that many of you and your families are doing well. To many of the parents and those suffering from Bi-Polar; would you care to provide some indication on behaviors, things you/children do / specific things that stand out. I am really concerned too. I started studying psychology as well and now have a BA in Counselling Psychology. I found that many times psychologists (not all) do not do that great of a job in all honesty. Some are really caring and try their best to know as much as they can , while to others it becomes a job and their clients are just there to make sure they get paid. If any of you are interested or I receive a few responses to this I will create a website where more people can share their experiences, the signs etc. My goal is to help people become more educated on the subject and parents know their children but because you trust a doctor more than yourself you are likely to follow their advice and many do not seek a second opinion or cannot afford to. I am not a psychologist but from my research I learned so much from hearing real peoples’ stories and how they positively manage bi-polar as well as other illnesses. My advice to many is to also read as much as you can, educate yourself, seek a second or third opinion especially when it comes to medication for children. I’ve been inspired by this article and the comments that I really feel that I need to continue with this and other research and bring people like you together to share your experiences and what works/helps you and others to manage bi-polar, what to look out for, warning signs etc. Anyway, I really wish you all the best and I will be sure to check back on this article. Never give up hope and know that you can live a beautiful happy live with any illness, hard as it might be.

    1. My psychologist had me work my way through The Bipolar Workbook by Monica Ramerez Basco. It helped me not only understand the disorder but to look at my history objectively to discover my episode triggers in order to be proactive before or when I first become symptomatic. I am now a certified peer support specialist and often share my experience with the book with others that share my diagnosis.

      1. First of all a psychiatrist is the one who diagnoses bipolar. No psychologist is not allowed by law to make bipolar diagnoses. So there for you really may not have bipolar. To get the real truth if your bipolar or not you need a phyciatrist to make that decision. I know for a fact that bipolar is serious not a joke. I have bipolar 1 rapid cycling. There is no cure and no workbook that’s going to make it better. All the medicines we take for bipolar and depression only take the edge off of it. So enough bullshit stories need to be stopped. I was diagnosed in my 30s. I’ve lived with bipolar for over 12 years now. I see my psychiatrist every 2 or 3 week a month. I’ve been seeing psychiatrist since I was 18 years old. I was so relieved when phyciatrist finally got my diagnoses right. Of course as bipolar people know finding the right combination of medicine is very challenging and taking many different medicines to get it somewhat manageable. Only problem is the medicines take the edge off the manias and depression. Those pesky mood changes will always be there until they can find a cure. I like my mood changes because they change from minute to minute. The moods I despise are the angry and depressed ones. I really would love to eliminate those 2 but not going to happen reality truth. So to all of us people with bipolar don’t let people bring you down with nasty criticism. I’ve learned to ignore and not listen. People who don’t have bipolar only show their stupidity by talking about something they know nothing about. I tell people study up on it and then come talk to me. I’ve heard it all and I laugh at it now because if you really think about it. You wouldn’t go talk to someone about something you know nothing about. So my point is that let people show their own stupidity because other people will laugh at them not you. I believe in karma so I just sit back and let karma do it’s work. As I always say to people I will always get the last laugh. I understand we all want the stigma to go away but until then just let it go in one ear and out the other. When people get to know me they always say wow what was said about you really isn’t true so I laugh and tell them if you want the truth come talk to me and you will see the truth not the lies and rumors. The only way people can somewhat understand bipolar is being around a bipolar person. I’m not ashamed to tell people I have bipolar because by me telling them and seeing my moods shows that bipolar people are not killers,psycho, and crazy people. I should them all we are is human beings and are brains are just wired different.

    2. H. Manic behaviors for my son include things that just seem odd. We started seeing these things at 16 years old. Once he was convinced he was making a card that could magically get cash out of the ATM, several times he has psyically run to the bank to get cash, he has bought several home tattoo kits and given himself tattoos, obsessively rearranges his bed room, obsessively spends hours in the bathroom doing his hair or shaving different parts of his body. As he has gotten older his h. manic episodes have included drug usage and sex. He seems to have a 3-4 day period every 3-5 weeks. He is still not diagnosed with bipolar but medicated for such. With medication it is more difficult to see the h. Mania but it is still there.

  4. Hello, I was diagnosed with bipolar when I was 23 but have been in seeing therapists since I was 11. My mother knew something was wrong, just didn’t know what. My oldest son was 3 when he was diagnosed with ADHD. My daughter was diagnosed at 5 with ADHD also but recently she has been seeing a new doctor who thinks she actually has bipolar. She is 6 now. I had never heard of a child so young having bipolar. The doctor told me what I think is hyperactivity, may actually be mania. She also said she thinks she has both. So now she is treating her with ADHD meds but also bipolar meds. The doctor told me my daughter is depressed and experiencing anxiety. I’m just looking for answers, thanks for the article. Hopefully my experience will be helpful to someone else also.

  5. Hi J.h. just wondering if bipolar is in your family? do you also have a bipolar diagnosis?

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