This article was co-authored by Philip Glickman, PsyD. Dr. Philip Glickman is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and the Director of Wellness Road Psychology with two locations in Dobbs Ferry and the Financial District of New York City. He specializes in cognitive-behavioral therapy, mindfulness techniques, treatment of anxiety, and life coaching. Dr. Glickman is a member of the American Psychological Association. He holds a BA in Criminology and Psychology from The University of Maryland College Park and an MA in Forensic Psychology from The City University of New York. Dr. Glickman also holds a PsyD in School and Community Psychology from Hofstra University.
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Whether your kids' schedules have you frazzled to no end or your boss is hovering over your desk demanding those final reports now, appearing calm while under pressure is a talent not easily cultivated but definitely worth the effort. During a stressful situation, the body's natural tendency is to go into hyper-sensitive mode and flee––which may cause you to exhibit erratic and somewhat insane behavior.
Rather than give in to the stress gods, practice a new approach during a harrowing situation that will allow you to at least appear as if you are zen on the inside rather than the real feelings of being stressed to the max. In addition, as with anything you practice, the more you try this, the more your body will believe it and you actually will end coping in zen mode when stressful situations happen.
Steps
Expert Q&A
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QuestionHow do you fake being calm at work?Philip Glickman, PsyDDr. Philip Glickman is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and the Director of Wellness Road Psychology with two locations in Dobbs Ferry and the Financial District of New York City. He specializes in cognitive-behavioral therapy, mindfulness techniques, treatment of anxiety, and life coaching. Dr. Glickman is a member of the American Psychological Association. He holds a BA in Criminology and Psychology from The University of Maryland College Park and an MA in Forensic Psychology from The City University of New York. Dr. Glickman also holds a PsyD in School and Community Psychology from Hofstra University.
Licensed Clinical PsychologistTry taking a little break! Stand up and pretend you have to go to the bathroom and just go sit there for a minute and process what you're feeling. After a couple of minutes, you'll be better and can come back to the situation as if everything's okay. -
QuestionHow can I calm myself in 5 minutes?Philip Glickman, PsyDDr. Philip Glickman is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and the Director of Wellness Road Psychology with two locations in Dobbs Ferry and the Financial District of New York City. He specializes in cognitive-behavioral therapy, mindfulness techniques, treatment of anxiety, and life coaching. Dr. Glickman is a member of the American Psychological Association. He holds a BA in Criminology and Psychology from The University of Maryland College Park and an MA in Forensic Psychology from The City University of New York. Dr. Glickman also holds a PsyD in School and Community Psychology from Hofstra University.
Licensed Clinical PsychologistGo for a walk outside and get some sunlight! You can also get your phone and journal a little bit about what's on your mind what are you thinking about. Just let the time pass, as sometimes the wave of stress or emotion has to kind of wash over for you to let go.
Tips
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Get enough sleep. The less sleep you've had, the more likely it is that you'll not be able to cope well with stressful situations. Sleep restores your mental and physical strength, allowing you to call on more reserves to introduce a zen-like state during stressful situations. Even a nap can be refreshing if you've been missing out on the z's.Thanks
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If you feel as if you're about to lose control, excuse yourself from a public situation so you can be alone for a few minutes.Thanks
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Focus on dealing with harder tasks when you're at your most alert. That way, you can give them your full attention and concentration, and these will be less likely to weigh heavily on you for the rest of the stressful period. Even if you can only get started on these tasks and have to come back to them periodically to complete them, the act of starting on them can relieve you of much tension.Thanks
Warnings
- Sometimes glazing over what is really bothering you can cause a negative physical reaction. From breaking out in hives or a rash to chest pain. Get to the root of your anxiety before it takes a toll on your health.Thanks
References
- ↑ Philip Glickman, PsyD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 19 August 2021.
- ↑ https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/self-help/guides-tools-and-activities/breathing-exercises-for-stress/
- ↑ Philip Glickman, PsyD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 19 August 2021.
- ↑ https://rightasrain.uwmedicine.org/mind/stress/why-deep-breathing-makes-you-feel-so-chill
- ↑ https://www.heart.org/en/healthy-living/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/spend-time-in-nature-to-reduce-stress-and-anxiety
- ↑ Philip Glickman, PsyD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 19 August 2021.
- ↑ https://www.apa.org/monitor/2019/01/break
- ↑ https://www.apa.org/topics/healthy-workplaces/work-stress
- ↑ https://hbr.org/2018/07/how-to-focus-on-whats-important-not-just-whats-urgent