21 7 / 2016
I just left my husband alone with our two children for sixteen days. I was not worried about anything regarding the house, their food, or their wellbeing. I put all the appointments in the family calendar and my husband checked it and kept them. I literally did not worry about them. I missed them, and I was sad that they missed me, but I didn’t worry about them AT ALL. I need to impress upon you all that I missed their company, but was not worried for their welfare.
I also did no meal prep. I don’t even think I went shopping right before I left.
This is not about apples and oranges. This isn’t even about my husband. This is about the fact that this is apparently WEIRD.
Another mum at my daughter’s school is leaving for ten days. She’s taking her youngest (who is a very small baby) and leaving her husband with their two girls. She has been cooking for days preparing freezer meals. She’s panicking and deputizing her six year old to remind him how to make school lunches. AND I AM APPALLED.
A) He is definitely not helpless. (He’s a doctor or something.) What gendered bullshit. B) THAT LITTLE GIRL IS NOT OLD ENOUGH TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR HER AND HER SISTER’S WELLBEING. WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK. C) Why is she married to this person and creating children with him if he’s this big of an idiot?
While she was laughingly recounting this, the other mums were nodding and smiling sympathetically, like oh yes, I too have my caveman at home!! Such managing required! I was the only one who was like “Dude, he’ll be fine. Literally. He will be fine.” I said it a lot. She was not convinced. She kept bringing up her older daughter. She’ll be like a little mum!
NO.
NO NO NO NO.
NO.
Straight women, don’t do this shit. It’s gross. Don’t infantilize your husbands and then expect your daughters to pick up the slack. So fucking gross. So. So. GROSS.
The fact that so many adults think a six year old girl is more capable of learning and performing basic domestic tasks than a grown-ass man says it all, really.
This stuff is so toxic and awful. I told a car full of women one time that I refused to be in another relationship until I met a man who was capable of making his own doctors’ appointments and washing the dishes. They told me I was going to die alone.
Fuck this shit. Don’t enable men’s incompetence and label it cute.
- pansexualflowr reblogged this from fannish-snailien
- vampvelvet reblogged this from whattheheckcerulli
- vampvelvet liked this
- whattheheckcerulli reblogged this from runthepockets
- m-0rgan liked this
- smallhorizons liked this
- runthepockets reblogged this from wanderingandfound
- books-and-sadness reblogged this from spirkandkock
- books-and-sadness liked this
- dammit-sherlock-its-greg liked this
- easyfastcheapcooking liked this
- loki1987 liked this
- saratrofa liked this
- tired-reader-writer liked this
- penguinsrideatdawn liked this
- obnoxious-ghoul reblogged this from larrytheuntoldtruth
- ariiyao liked this
- meissama liked this
- woodyoukindly liked this
- blackdalek reblogged this from singwhenyoucantspeak
- schoenerboner liked this
- angstbotfic liked this
- bigangelhoundeclipse liked this
- slightlyhesitantdalek reblogged this from singwhenyoucantspeak
- nunchijeu reblogged this from thebiafalex
- r0manxff liked this
- singwhenyoucantspeak reblogged this from thebiafalex
- thebiafalex reblogged this from kendrysaneela
- glitterfairy-21225 reblogged this from kendrysaneela
- glitterfairy-21225 liked this
- maybejustfriends liked this
- cyberstrangerreview reblogged this from kendrysaneela
- cyberstrangerreview liked this
- papa3slut liked this
- kendrysaneela reblogged this from lunadove
- kendrysaneela liked this
- boredom00111000 reblogged this from rocksforjocks
- bemily82 liked this
- lunadove reblogged this from when-did-this-become-difficult
- blonde-of-sherwood reblogged this from hooksmoak
- ass-theticcs reblogged this from dazzllng
- pettysickly reblogged this from daphnedauphinoise
- easiepeas liked this
- cavernexplorer liked this
- chanzero liked this
- chaos-confusion liked this
- jenndoesnotcare posted this
- Show more notes