“During my middle school graduation ceremony, my parents made me wear a men’s polo shirt and dress pants. Having opened up to them about being a girl when I was eight and reminding them just days beforehand, they threatened me with severe punishment if I didn’t walk in the outfit of their choice. Being seen as a boy by the room of several hundred people in my small town was humiliating and traumatizing. I cried while trudging down the aisle to the graduation stage. ‘You’re having an identity crisis,’ my mom scolded me immediately after I finished the graduation ceremony. My parents were the ones having a crisis with my identity. I knew who I was. But little did I know, eight years later I would be graduating college in a suit, openly as a woman. Recognizing that attire does not define identity has allowed trans women to express ourselves in new and creative ways.”

— Eli Erick

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If there is something that makes my very irritated is to see some trans woman who:
1- Already had their papers/Documents/IDs properly corrected;
2- Had already done their SRS, usually paid by someone else, a boyfriend, husband, parents;
3- Always had since the beginning the support from their parents and family;
4- Have a stable job and/or is financially privileged;
5- Have a total “cis pass-ability”;
6- Are skinny, white and according all cisnormative standards of beauty for women;
7- Are usually straight and are in a stable relationship with a cool guy;

HOWEVER, are ALWAYS trying to silence other trans people when a cis person says something transphobic;
Pretends that they have nothing to do with the institutionalized transphobia in society since they can live stealthy like any cis person;
Blames other trans people who are not “passable”, who are fat, who are disenfranchised, unemployed, who couldn’t afford to do a SRS and correct their ID  or doesn’t have any support from their families for the oppression that they face with a meritocratic discourse such as “If you were less negative, or didn’t complain so much the things would be better for you as they are for me. You just need get on you bootstraps and work hard!”, every time those disenfranchised trans women complain or say how bad they are due constant transphobic oppression.

I’m tired to try open my heart to this kind of privileged trans women!

Tired of share my feeling, open my wounds and receive nothing more than a condescending speech from someone who has NO IDEA WHATSOEVER (Or use to had but seems that already forgot it) of how is to be living in this cisnormative society, having to be constantly humiliated and nullified just because I don’t have a ID and a body that correspond to my identity according with social standards.
From someone who doesn’t know what means be expelled from your own home, family and have no support from your own parents at all;
Someone who doesn’t know how is to have no sexual or romantic relationship at all, even with myself;
Someone who doesn’t know what is have your identity as an woman denied or devaluated for being fat and out of the standards of beauty.
Someone who doesn’t know how it feels to be alone, underemployed or unemployed, therefore with no many to hormones or to anything to do with their transition.

PLEASE! DON’T BE THIS PERSON!