How to Be Exciting

Co-authored by Sirvart Mesrobian, PsyD

Last Updated: January 23, 2023 Approved

Whether you feel like your life is just too boring, you're looking to impress a certain someone, or you've been flat-out accused of being about exciting as grandma's knitting group, you've come to the right place. Read the article below to learn how to bring life to any party (because everywhere you go is going to be a party from now on)!

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Making Your Life Exciting

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Traveling is an easy way to make yourself and your life more exciting. Aside from the incredibly rewarding experiences you will have while doing this, it will also make you more confident and help teach you to cope with challenges in your life. You can travel locally or internationally, and traveling doesn't have to be as expensive as it seems. You can do it!^{[3]
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Do adventurous things. Go hiking. Learn to rock climb. Try scuba diving. Maybe jump out of some planes. This is the fastest way to take your life from boring to action hero. They're also not that hard to do: all you need is some education, determination, and a certain dose of bravery.^{[4]
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Consider a more exciting job. Now, this isn't for everybody. Sometimes you have a family to support, or other obligations that take precedence over being more exciting. But if you have the opportunity to, get yourself into a career path that you (or maybe even other people) find exciting. It'll do you a lot of favors in the long run because you will be more invested in the "boring" part of your day because the boring part of your day will be awesome!^{[7]
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- You could take a job overseas, work on something that's in that "cutting edge technology" category, or work with kids (who are well known for bringing the excitement 24/7).
Use skills you already have or learn some new ones and you can get on your way to doing what humans do best: making new things. You can make things just for you or turn your craft into a whole business. Being creative lets you express who you are but it also makes you more interesting to other people. Everyone wins!^{[8]
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Making Yourself Exciting

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Research source} Don't be a downer. Don't always complain or spend a bunch of time insulting or being down on other people. You can be as exciting as you want, but if you're a jerk then you're not really going to have anyone to enjoy that with. Make the most of life, even when it's handing out lemons like they're going out of style. Everyone will be better for it.^{[10]
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Take risks.^{[11]
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- Don't forget, you can often make your own Option C, if neither A nor B is really going to work for you.
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Constantly learn new things. Bonus points if you learn by doing! Filling your head with a world of experiences and knowledge is going to make you way more fun to talk to and you'll find that you enjoy the pursuit of knowledge along the way.
Be original. Everyone is unique. Absolutely everyone. If identical twins are different from each other and are unique, you can certainly manage. Find what is unique about you, what makes you different, and embrace that. Even if it's weird. You might not have to fly pride flags everywhere, but you can certainly make it a bigger part of your life. You'll find that it generally makes you happier.
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Be funny and positive. People love people that are funny, so develop a good joke repertoire and make people laugh.^{[15]
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- Your alternative is to be incredibly racist and offensive (the brand of exciting usually saved for grandparents who aren't particularly with the times), and you probably don't want to be that kind of exciting. Or maybe you do. Good luck with that.
Don't think that constantly changing your hair or dress is going to make you seem more exciting. The same can be said of trying a thousand hobbies and professions. Constantly changing drastically from one thing to the next doesn't make you exciting, it makes people think you're frivolous and not invested in anything. You'll seem like you do it for the attention. Find what matters to you and let changes come naturally.^{[17]
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Exciting Others

Get out there and be social!^{[18]
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Now, we're not trying to say that having more exciting friends will make you more exciting. That's not healthy. But more exciting friends will invite you to do exciting things, giving you opportunities to try new things. They'll also be more willing to join you on your own adventure.^{[19]
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Volunteer. Improve your community with the skills that you have. Help show other people how to turn their lives around by taking on challenges, just like you did in order to change how you were living your life. This act of giving back makes you more exciting, but it also will help others and give you a great sense of fulfillment.^{[20]
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As you go around doing all of these exciting things, you will learn lots of cool or useful information. Make good use of this by educating others. You can give classes, or just have some fun facts for your friends at parties. People will enjoy living vicariously through the things you learn and tell them.^{[21]
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Don't, however, boast or spend a lot of time rubbing it in people's faces. Your life is exciting, they know. If they want to know more, they'll ask, so try not to make every other sentence out of your mouth about "This one time I....".
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Be able to speak up for yourself!^{[24]
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Always smile. Never have a dull moment.

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Always be able to take a joke.

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Stay away from those bad people who can bring you down.

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If you like something, do it! It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

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Don't be exciting to the point of obnoxious. Unless that's what you're going for.

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