Good post date chat
The little things
Legit just want to be in a countryside hotel, with a fireplace, a roll top bath, some gorgeous lingerie in my bag, beside a man I really fancy, only leaving for a walk wrapped up in layers of jumpers and scarfs, and bottle of red in a proper cosy dark pub with the windows steamed up.
stoicresignation asked: Hey, love the blog and I was wondering if you could provide a woman's perspective on something for me. On all my dating profiles, I make some mention of being kink and BDSM friendly (on OKC I come right out and say it, but on apps like Bumble and Hinge and CMB etc etc, things are a bit more mainstream, so I say something like "BDSM friendly" or "D>s", but I'm never totally sure when to bring it up as a thing. During messaging? First date? Just before sleeping together the first time?
Hey. it depends how important you think it is in a future potential relationship. I find that often if you mention something like that on your profile, it’s what people chose to hone in one, and therefore will see you as more of a sexual hookup than a future partner. Have you tried using one of the apps targeted to those in the kink community such as Whiplr? Perhaps using one of these, but making it clear you’re looking for a relationship, that way you’ll attract people with similar sexual interests and you can be candid about your kinks without fear of judgement :)
In case you’re wondering why I’ve not blogged about a date lately….
It’s because I’ve been offered approx 10 dates in the last 3 months and most have cancelled. Urgh.
You feel my pain?
Anonymous asked: Like reading your blog Lauren and thought you might be able to advise. My daughter's fabulous: kind, witty, intelligent and bloody beautiful too. Despite this she's single and sometimes thinks that is a reflection on her. How do I get her to see just how amazing she is?
Your daughter sounds fabulous. Unfortunately, being single can sometimes take it’s toll, but it seems as though you’re a positive influence on her. Best thing I can advise, is don’t ever ask her if she’s dating, or if she’s “still single”, when relatives/friends do this to me it can be upsetting and disheartening, plus, if I’m dating someone special I’d tell them without them needing to ask.
Ask her about her achievements at work, or in other aspects of her life, and encourage other family members to do the same. When my Nan asks if I’ve met anyone, I’ve previously responded “no Nannna, how about you? You got divorced in the 70s, isn’t it about time you settled down?”.
Also, remember, just because someone *sometimes* gets down about being single, doesn’t mean they are unhappily single. xxx
Reminder that guys aren’t dicks just because they don’t wanna date you any more
I went on two dates with this guy a couple of months ago and we got on really well. After the second date he called me, said he loved getting to know me, but it just didn’t feel like something he’d want to pursue.
Fair enough.
When I tweeted about it at the time, people were quick to accuse him of being arrogant to call, but I think it’s great. Especially in a time where ghosting has become so terribly normal.
Anyway, he’s obviously just a nice genuine guy, because I got this lovely message from him last week, he just doesn’t fancy me that much.
WHICH IS OK. Guys, it’s the point of dating, you date to see whether you like someone enough to be with. If they don’t like you that much, it does not make them a dick.
Rant over, byeeee.
