How to Buy a Christmas Present for Your Female Crush

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Last Updated: February 21, 2024

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A present says a lot about you. Not only does it say that you like someone enough to gift them a special present, it also shows them how thoughtful and perceptive you can be when it comes to them. This article will help you find the perfect gift for your female crush, as well as teach you what girls generally like.

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Find out what she wants, but subtly. Ask her about her favorite color, favorite animal or favorite pastime. Everyone has an interest that they consider their own; something that they feel identifies them as an individual. This interest is the key to a good gift.^{[1]
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- Think about specific sports, activities, animals, bands, authors, or artists that she likes. Any one of these interests is a potential gift.
- If you don't want her to know you're asking about her, you can always ask around (her friends, or your friends) to gather more ideas. There's no shame in asking. Ask about other girls' interests, too, if you're worried that you might
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Use your feminine side. It's probably not a great ideas to go and buy her a skull statue, unless she's into that kind of thing. Put yourself in her shoes; think about what girls generally swoon over.
- Jewelry, flowers or candy are usually safe bets. Note: if you plan on buying her any one of these, don't expect to keep your crush secret. These gifts scream "I'm really into you."
- Clothing can also be a good option, but choose with care. Shirts, scarves, hats, and socks are all fine clothing gifts.
- However, underwear, lingerie, camisoles or anything that goes underneath clothing is not! It's way too personal and may be taken the wrong way, or earn you a slap in the face. Underwear is only okay with her permission!
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Be careful of how much you pay for her present. This may sound weird to say, but she may get a little uncomfortable if you buy her a $300 necklace and she buys you a pair of socks, or nothing at all. You might want to get her the world, but she might find it embarrassing.
- If you're just getting to know your crush, or haven't known her for too long, stick with presents that are under $100. It's still fairly easy to get her a great present that's classy and tasteful but doesn't cost too much. Think about:
  - A nice set of paper and envelopes if she's a romantic or she likes to write letters. A pen (fountain or ball point) might be nice.
  - A set of wonderfully-smelling candles. Just remember that the candles you think smell good might not appeal to her.
  - A lomography camera. A lomography camera is a fancy name for a lo-fi camera that's coming back into style. These cameras are often available under $100.
  - A miniature ecosystem if she's into nature, science, or biology. Mini ecosystems are customizable, require little upkeep, and can be bought for under $100.^{[2]
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Make a gift for her. Buying a gift — anyone can do that. Making a gift, on the other hand — that takes time, effort, and dedication. If you really want to show her you care around her, make her something she'll enjoy and appreciate.
- There are tons of things you can make for her. Most involve a little bit of crafting. Maybe go with a rope bowl or some vintage stamp coasters. Both are ideas you can expand on.
- Make her a necklace with nice fabric and beads, or tiny Polaroid magnets with pictures of you and her.
- If she's a food-lover, make her some printable recipe cards where she can immortalize her favorite recipes, or a fruit bouquet packed with some of her favorite fruit.

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Some girls can feel like a total mystery. How can you figure out if she likes you just as a friend or if she wants something more? Take this quiz to find out!

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How do her friends treat you?

They told me that she likes me.

They giggle and laugh with her when I walk into the room.

They’ve mentioned her in conversation.

They haven’t done anything out of the ordinary (or I don't know them).

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Get her something that reflects a common interest. If you both enjoy doing something similar, why not make her happy while reinforcing what you have in common? More common ground can mean more time together.
- If you both like a sports team or a particular sport, get tickets to a game. Make sure she actually likes the sport though. You don't want to invite her to a baseball game only to find out she thinks it's incredibly boring.
- If you both like art or cooking, buy entry into a sculpture class or a cooking lesson. These are both fun group activities, and end up being pretty easy dates!^{[3]
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Wrap up whatever you get her nicely. Simple wrapping paper with a pretty ribbon. Girls don't like presents handed to them in trash bags.
- There are a couple different wrapping methods you can experiment with, or you can always get your present gift wrapped for a fee (or sometimes free).
- Experiment a bit. Some people wrap the present inside a present. For example, cut a hole out of the middle of an old, used book and place a small, wrapped present inside the space you cut out. Then wrap up the book.
- Even if you're getting her tickets or something that fits into an envelope, take care to make the envelope look good. Make a great impression on her with sleek, high-quality paper.
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Get her a card. When you get her a card, don't run down the aisle and get the first one that falls off the shelf. Try to pick one that says something about how special she is. All girls like to be told they are special.
- Keep your card short and sweet. An essay is probably what you'd like to write, but that much gushing can make her feel overwhelmed and embarrassed. Keep it simple.
- Cards are perfect opportunities for you to say something that will hit home with her.^{[4]
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  - You can make it suggestive and romantic by saying something like: "Choosing gifts isn't easy, but what's worth all the world is to see you happy and healthy."
  - Or you can stick to the friendly, familiar, or funny: "Hope your holidays are filled with the brightest cheer."
When she's squealing with delight at your great gift, just go for it. It's normal to exchange hugs like that after gift-giving.
You'll make more of an impression on her if you give her the gift personally. Not only are you showing her how confident you are, you're showing her how she makes you feel. That's a great thing.
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Don't make a big deal of it. Hopefully she sees how much you like her. Lay low and keep the course.
- If she has a gift for you, or gives you a gift over the course of the next couple of weeks, there's a good chance she really values you as a friend or likes you more intimately.
- If she really likes your gift, you could take a risk and tell her how you feel. She may even tell you how she feels! You may want to do this in a less populated area (e.g. not at school, work, or at a party), just in case her reaction to the news is unexpected.
- If she doesn't get you a gift back, and doesn't starting talking to you more, the signs aren't looking good. She probably doesn't like you in the same way that you like her, but you can never be sure. The surest way is to go out and ask her out at this point. You have nothing to lose.
If you get a girl a gift, don't back out. Even if she doesn't really like the gift, she'll still love the thought. Put feeling behind your actions and everything should turn out fine.
Accept the fact she is not the one for you. Try to find the right girl next time.

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What do I get my 10 year old crush for Christmas?

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Something hand made that she can carry around with her, such as a beaded bracelet. Girls that age also love charming guys. Just be a prince, mixed in with your very own personality.

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What if I know she doesn't like me, but want to do something nice because I like her being happy? Is buying her a present the best course of action?

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Sure, girls love it when a guy does things without strings attached. Just because she doesn't like you now, doesn't mean she never will. At the very least, she will consider you a good friend.

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So, it's almost Christmas, and my crush of 5 years just broke up with her boyfriend. Too soon to get her something? I don't want to be a rebound.

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Maybe. If you do get her a gift, make sure it is not at all romantic or overly sentimental because she may think you are going for the "rebound". Do something small, perhaps even humorous.

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Make sure that if you are going to buy her clothing that it is her size. It will be very uncomfortable for you both if you get her something too big or too small!

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If you are giving flowers, be conscious of whether your girl likes public attention or not. If she is a shy one, perhaps you should send the flowers to her house and not her place of employment.

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Do not make her feel obligated to get you something, even though that's not always a bad thing.

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If you've given her a gift in the past and it still doesn't seem like she likes you, you may not want to get her a Christmas present. Sometimes giving too many gifts can give the wrong message.
If you're going to buy her food, beauty products, or jewelry, ask her if she's allergic to anything first.
When in doubt, get her cookies.

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Don't assume she likes frilly "girl" stuff.

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Don't assume she likes pink. Some girls just don't.

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Find out if she is already married to or in a relationship with someone. If she is, it may not be the best time to spring a heartfelt gift on her.

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If you can see that she doesn't like the present, don't freak. There's always her birthday and next Christmas.

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