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Alex Nash and his father Derek with the invoice for missing the birthday party.
Alex Nash and his father Derek with the invoice for missing the birthday party. Photograph: Photograph: Apex/Lucy Davies
Alex Nash and his father Derek with the invoice for missing the birthday party. Photograph: Photograph: Apex/Lucy Davies

Five-year-old misses friend's birthday party and gets invoice for £15.95

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The parents of Alex Nash have been sent an invoice for failing to attend the birthday party and threatened with legal action if they do not pay

No-show invoices, gift vouchers and posh gift bags: the true cost of the children’s party

The parents of a five-year-old schoolboy have been invoiced for failing to attend a school friend’s birthday party and have been threatened with legal action if they do not pay. Derek Nash and Tanya Walsh found a brown envelope with a £15.95 “no show fee” left in their son Alex’s schoolbag last week, sent by his classmate’s mother Julie Lawrence.

Lawrence claims that Alex’s failure to attend her child’s birthday party has left her out of pocket, and that his parents had her details to tell her that their son would not be attending.

Nash said he had been told he would be taken to small claims court for refusing to pay.

It all started with an invitation to the birthday party just before Christmas at the Plymouth Ski Slope and Snowboard Centre. Alex – who attends a local nursery in Torpoint, Cornwall – told his parents he wanted to go, so they confirmed he would be at the party.

However, his parents realised on the day that Alex had been double-booked to spend time with his grandparents.

His mother told Apex News, “Julie Lawrence and I weren’t friends, we didn’t talk to each other at school, but I felt bad about Alex not going to the party.”

“I searched for the party invite afterwards and I’m not sure we even had one.”

She added: “But to be invoiced like this is so over the top – I’ve never heard of anything like it. It’s a terrible way of handling it – it’s very condescending.”

Nash said he did not have the contact details of Julie Lawrence, and so could not let her know on the day.

After he found the letter he visited Lawrence, as her address was on the invoice, and “told her I would not be paying her the money”.

“It was a proper invoice with full official details and even her bank details on it.” He added: “I can understand that she’s upset about losing money. The money isn’t the issue, it’s the way she went about trying to get the money from me.”

“She didn’t treat me like a human being,” he said.

In a short statement, Lawrence said: “All details were on the party invite. They had every detail needed to contact me.”

Here’s how people reacted to the story on Twitter:

Re. the woman who invoiced a boy for not attending her child's party, the same happened to me with a wedding. £30. Bargain, I thought.

— Eva Wiseman (@EvaWiseman) January 19, 2015

I love the no show party invoice Can we also charge parents who don't RSVP but bring sprog and/or siblings along to party unannounced?

— Ronaldinhio (@Ronaldinhio) January 19, 2015

That woman invoicing for a no-show at her kid's birthday party is deluded if she thinks any invoice at all will ever get paid in January.

— David Whitley (@mrdavidwhitley) January 19, 2015

Just IMAGINE how fun the parties of a woman prepared to invoice your 5yo for failing to attend on would be http://t.co/b0oF4FxuU7

— Gaby Hinsliff (@gabyhinsliff) January 19, 2015
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