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How Do You Handle the Check On Dates?


There was a time when who handled what on a date was fairly straight forward. However, modern dating conventions have led to shifting mindsets, as one study shows.

According to a study done by the American Sociological Association found that 64% of men believed that women should contribute to dating expenses, however 76% felt guilty about accepting women's money. This is pretty obviously contradictory (though not an uncommon complication). Moreover, most couples agree that in a long-term relationship, sharing financial responsibility is an important quality, so the problem is figuring out when that should start:

In terms of behavior, even if men are paying a larger proportion of expenses, 4 in 10 men and women agreed that dating expenses were at least partially shared within the first month, and roughly threefourths (74 percent of men, 83 percent of women) reported some sharing of expenses by six months

So, how do you handle the problem? Do you have any expectations of your partner to pay for dates? At what point do you begin to share financial responsibility for outings?

Men Want Women to Split Dating Costs But Are Scared to Ask | PsyBlog